‘It’s A Spiritual Thing’: Rocker Lenny Kravitz Says He’s Been Celibate For Almost A Decade

Rocker Lenny Kravitz said he’s been celibate for almost a decade, calling it a “spiritual thing” for him after not being in a serious relationship for nine years.

During an interview with Thee Guardian, the 60-year-old singer talked about the dating he did after he and actress Lisa Bonet divorced in 1993, admitting that not having sex has given him a sense of control over his life.

Kravitz talked about his own father’s infidelity when he was growing up, how his dad said he’d end up cheating on his spouse, and he said his dad had ended up being right.

“After the marriage, I became more like him. I was becoming a player,” Kravitz told the outlet.

“I didn’t like it,” he added. “I didn’t want to be that guy. So I had to tackle that and it took years.”xs

When pressed by the interviewer on how he tackled it, the famed rocker said, “By taking responsibility. Discipline. Not letting my own desires take over.”

Kravitz said it’s been nine years since he was in a serious relationship, and explained that he decided to remain celibate until he found the right person.

“It’s a spiritual thing,” the singer said, noting that being in a relationship now might be a struggle. “I have become very set in my ways, in the way I live.”

In 2008, Kravitz told CBS Sunday Morning he believed that “in the end [being celibate]” was “going to help me to find the right person.”

”So I’m not going to waver on that,” the rocker said at the time. “That’s a promise I made to God three years ago.”

Speaking to CBS co-anchor Gayle King recently, Kravitz admitted he was open to what the future may bring, whatever that might be, whether he ended up in a relationship or not.

“I find that when you don’t look is when you find it,” Kravitz said. “And I’m at a place where I’ve said this for several years: ‘I’m ready, I’m ready, I’m ready.’ I wasn’t ready. I thought I was ready, right?”

“Well, I can say that I’ve never felt how I feel now,” he added.

Kravitz and Bonet tied the knot in 1987 and welcomed daughter Zoe to the world in 1988. The famed rocker and the actress divorced in 1993. After that, Kravitz was romantically linked with model Adriana Lima and Nicole Kidman, TMZ noted.